There’s a problem when the men who do show you interest aren’t the men you want. Yeah it’s flattering to have some male attention and it’s nice to have when your taking some time out to be single but we soon take it for granted when the guy isn’t the one we want. There could be two reasons for this.
- You don’t know what you want
- You know EXACTLY what you want
If you don’t know what you want, how are you going to find it?? Don’t trust people who say when you meet the right person ‘you just know’. No you don’t! You wouldn’t go into your garage to find something if you didn’t know what you were looking for.
Make a list. It might have 5 things on that your potential partner must be/have. It might have 55. But when your number gets higher than 20, there could be a problem.
If you know EXACTLY what you want in a man, you already have a specific man in mind. Are you basing him on a childhood crush? Or a man you already know? You can’t do that. Detach yourself from this person RIGHT NOW.
I made my list when I was 16 and ‘in love’ and my list had 19 things which made up the man of my dreams , (pretty much the guy I was with at the time);
Good to talk to
Won’t give in easily
Not too sociable
Never takes drugs
In time I moved on from that boyfriend but my list didn’t change, I had been let down by that particular person but it didn’t mean I didn’t want all that stuff anymore! That was over 10 years ago and since then I have met PLENTY of men who are the above things. YOU probably know a couple of people already who are right for me! That’s my TYPE. There isn’t only one man out there who is my type. There’s LOADS.
Decide what your type is. You’re going to meet men who are MORE than what you want and you’re going to meet men who only have 15/19 or 17/19. Maybe you can overlook a couple of things on your list?
Maybe you don’t want to and that’s fine. Keep looking. I can guarantee you that there will be hundreds of men who fit your criteria. The tricky part after that is to get their attention!