How many first dates have you been on that didn’t involve eating or drinking alcohol? In fact how many first months of dating have you had where you were not eating or drinking more than usual? The first few weeks of dating are the best. You get to enjoy yourself and start to wonder whether you are falling in love. The person that you are attracted to is also attracted to you. And this persons opinion matters. So after a few meals, a few drinks and a few hang overs it’s not surprising when a girl notices that she has put on a few extra pounds. They have changed their lifestyle to a less healthy one and have less time to look after themselves.
However a few pounds is not the issue. It’s the boyfriends reaction to the few pounds that does the damage… “I didn’t even notice / you look the same to me / well I think you look great”. These kind hearted words from your new man are going to stick with you for a few more months worth of high calorie meals and drinks. Every time you make the choice to have something that will help you put on weight, your boyfriends voice will echo in your ears ensuring you that what you are doing is absolutely fine.
Luckily for us, your boyfriend is probably telling the truth, it’s OK to enjoy yourself while you settle into your new relationship and create a new lifestyle for both of you. Although it feels like it comes as a shock when you hit the 7 pound, 10 pound or the 14 pound of gain mark, you will know when the right time is to stop indulging and make healthier choices for the long run.
When you realize you and your man are in it for the long haul, you must gain perspective and phase out some of your new bad habits and bring back some of your old good habits. Get some tips here. When you do, there is no doubt that your man will be secretly pleased, not because he noticed you put on weight in the first place, but because he noticed he had started to put on a little weight too.
