Cheating Dating Relationships

Should he Give you Access to His Phone?

People have the right to their own privacy, they should be able to go to the bathroom in peace for example. But when you get in a relationship some things become less private and even shared.  You have to share a bed, share bills, responsibilities, chores, cheesecake and a lot more. And it’s because you have chosen to enter into a partnership. Depending on how serious the relationship is, sometimes you will even have a joint bank account.


So WHY WHY WHY do some men INSIST on keeping the information on their phones private? Well let’s have a think, what information is held on a mobile phone?

1. Phone numbers

2. Messages (text or email)

3. Internet history

A phone is 90% about having contact with other people so if someone in a relationship likes to keep that information private, I say they’re having contact they don’t want you to know about!


There is a chance that out of embarrassment they don’t want you to check their internet history. Or beat their high score on Bejewelled. But it’s more probable that they have had contact with someone they ‘shouldn’t’.

They shouldn’t could be because they know it’s wrong or it could be because they know it’s NOT wrong but YOU will think  its wrong and it will start an argument if you find out.

However, if he thinks you’d flip out about the conversations he’s having / who he’s having them with, either you’re too controlling or he knows deep down what he’s doing is disrespectful.

If your man is uncomfortable with you using his phone to browse the internet, contact people or play on the games, then the reason could be he’s worried about what you might find on there.

I wouldn’t ask a man to see his phone for no good reason, but if I had one and I did ask, I would expect to be given permission to use it. If a guy refuses to give you permission to use his phone explain to him that he’s acting suspiciously and it’s making you uncomfortable. He’s going to tell you you have no right to his phone and he just ‘doesn’t like anyone going on his phone’.and it’s up to you to either trust him or get the hell out of a relationship with a man who keeps secrets.

Tip: Don’t share your bed with a man who won’t share his phone with you.


By Hannah Jones

Hannah is a Manchester based writer who has spent many years studying and working in the field of journalism and psychology. Hannah enjoys swimming, meditation and dog walking. Her favourite quote is, 'If it doesn't challenge you, it doesn't change you.'