ExBoyfriend Threatening To Take His Life

I had an email today that goes as follows;

“My boyfriend and I recently split up after months of arguments and mistrust. He began a relationship with someone else but I couldn’t get over him and recently we hooked up. I’m not proud of what I did and I know the other girl didn’t deserve it. I was stupid and afterwards felt totally used when I realised he had no intention of getting back with me. I am really angry with myself and with him and I want to tell his girlfriend what happened, partly because I think she deserves to know and partly because I’m so angry and I don’t want him to get away with it! I told him if he doesn’t tell her that I will but he started to cry and told me he has been thinking about killing himself and if I tell her then he will have nothing left and he will do it. This has come out of the blue to me! I knew he was down but I’m not sure I believe him. How can I tell if he’s doing it to get away with it or if there is any truth to it?”

Whoa!! This is a HUGE responsibility to have! He’s basically telling you that his life is in your hands! How DARE he! The problem is, there is NO WAY to know if this is an empty threat.

I don’t believe people say things like that lightly and if that’s the case, he needs a lot of support. The situation you’re in means you can’t give him support. You need to stay away from him and possibly tell someone in his family about what he’s been saying.

However, if he is saying it to get out of being caught out, he’s disgusting and that is a TERRIBLE thing to do to someone BUT there is no way to tell and it’s just NOT worth the risk. If he’s a scumbag who doesn’t deserve to be in a relationship hopefully Karma will sort that out. Think about how you’ll feel if he did do it… could you live with yourself? A broken heart is bad but the guilt you’ll feel forever will be 10 times worse.

This guys put you in an awful situation, all you can do right now is walk away.


By Hannah Jones

Hannah is a Manchester based writer who has spent many years studying and working in the field of journalism and psychology. Hannah enjoys swimming, meditation and dog walking. Her favourite quote is, 'If it doesn't challenge you, it doesn't change you.'