Being Single Dating

Get the Man of Your Dreams

There’s a problem when the men who do show you interest aren’t the men you want. Yeah it’s flattering to have some male attention and it’s nice to have when your taking some time out to be single but we soon take it for granted when the guy isn’t the one we want. There could be two reasons for this.

  1. You don’t know what you want
  2. You know EXACTLY what you want

FaceThinkingIf you don’t know what you want, how are you going to find it?? Don’t trust people who say when you meet the right person ‘you just know’. No you don’t! You wouldn’t go into your garage to find something if you didn’t know what you were looking for.

Make a list. It might have 5 things on that your potential partner must be/have. It might have 55. But when your number gets higher than 20, there could be a problem.

If you know EXACTLY what you want in a man, you already have a specific man in mind. Are you basing him on a childhood crush? Or a man you already know? You can’t do that. Detach yourself from this person RIGHT NOW.


I made my list when I was 16 and ‘in love’ and my list had 19 things which made up the man of my dreams , (pretty much the guy I was with at the time);


Dark hair




Positive thinker

Good to talk to

Really funny


Won’t give in easily

Not too sociable

Good manners


Never takes drugs



Own house

Likes dogs

Six pack

In time I moved on from that boyfriend but my list didn’t change, I had been let down by that particular person but it didn’t mean I didn’t want all that stuff anymore! That was over 10 years ago and since then I have met PLENTY of men who are the above things. YOU probably know a couple of people already who are right for me! That’s my TYPE. There isn’t only one man out there who is my type. There’s LOADS.


Decide what your type is. You’re going to meet men who are MORE than what you want and you’re going to meet men who only have 15/19 or 17/19. Maybe you can overlook a couple of things on your list?


Maybe you don’t want to and that’s fine. Keep looking. I can guarantee you that there will be hundreds of men who fit your criteria. The tricky part after that is to get their attention!

Being Single

Should You Be Single?

First things first, being single is a GREAT thing to be. Everyone should spend at least one year of their life single. We can stretch out in bed, watch what we want on TV and see who we want, when we want.

Do what we want, when we want!

It’s important to learn that you are fine on your own and it’s important to be able to look after yourself. When there is danger, the human response is either fight or flight, it’s not; go and get some help. For us to survive we have to bloody well look after ourselves.

Being responsible for yourself is great, you’re FREE. Chillin’ doing your own thing. You can date as many people as you like; it’s not a crime to have some male company when you want it. Don’t focus on trying to get male attention. If it comes, it comes.

You don’t NEED a man but if you want one around sometimes, have one! Chill out and forget about finding the right man. Being single can be a real self-esteem booster. More men will show an interest in you while your single and you’ll soon find in time that when you know what you want, you’ll have your pick!


It is time to stop worrying about being single and embrace your happiness and your freedom.

Being Single Dating Love Positive Thinking Relationships

Strong Mind, Brave Heart

The advice I give is for women. I know, I know… “It’s not only men who cheat/lie/abuse” etc. Yeah, yeah that’s true. But I myself am a woman, so I speak to other women and I know how we feel. Men can take it this advice too if they like. But my advice is from one woman’s point of view to another.


I LOVE women. In my opinion, we’re the best! Women are beautiful creatures who are so sensitive they have the ability to read other people’s minds. Our sensitivity is a great thing. That’s why we’re the ones who get to carry a child inside us for 9 months! We get hardest job because in truth, WE are the stronger gender! Our sixth sense tells us when something’s not right, when someone is lying, when someone is upset and it is a great gift.

However our sensitivity can also cause some damage to ourselves. We give a second chance to liars, we try to help abusive partners and we blame ourselves when we’re cheated on.

Between the ages of about 15 – 30 women are still trying to work it all out. You really do need to kiss a lot of frogs and learn from your mistakes before you can find the right man for you. How are you going to know what you want without encountering the things that you don’t want? In these important years some people learn quickly and can be settled, happily married with a family by the time they get to thirty. Yey for them! But we do not all learn at the same pace.


Some people, and this includes myself, make the same mistake again and again and again. It gets embarrassing to the point that you can’t even be honest about it with your closest friends. It’s a very dark and lonely path to go down when you stop learning from your mistakes.


My aim is to help women who are stuck in a rut. Having the same problems day in, day out, with the same partner, different partners or with no partner at all. Do you feel like things will never change for you? That it’s just the way it’s meant to be or your just one of those people that can’t find happiness? Read on my friend.


Man Successfully Sues Wife For Ugly Children

So basically a woman didn’t tell her husband she had had plastic surgery and before it, she could have been considered erm, unattractive. The pair had children who also could have been considered as unattractive and the man sued his wife for it.

For a lot of people, if they have second thoughts about their wife at some point in the future, they will separate and maybe even divorce them. In the case of this man from China, he took it one step further but suing her getting $120,000 in a court settlement.

Jian Feng, from in Northern China,  filed for divorce from his wife after she had a child which he deemed to be “incredibly ugly,”  going on to  argue that his wife had tricked him by appearing to be a beautiful woman when she was instead ugly.

“I married my wife out of love, but as soon as we had our first daughter, we began having marital issues. Our daughter was incredibly ugly, to the point where it horrified me,” reports

At first he accused his wife of cheating as the child girl did not look like him. He was later confronted by his wife with the bitter truth – cosmetic surgery.

You could call it a case of false advertising, as it turned out that that his wife had spent over $100,000 in plastic surgery to change her appearance.

Furious that the fruit of his loins was not as good looking as he had hoped and the fact his wife had lied about the surgery to enhance her looks, Feng took the matter to court and won $120,000 in a settlement.

There has been a surprising reaction to the story on Social Media showing support to Feng.

“When you are in a true relationship, you tell your spouse everything. Past present and future – if not, then you don’t respect them” one male commented on Facebook.

The female audience has also largely sided with Feng. “Of course I would – if you start a relationship with a lie, where does it end?” one woman asked.


This is what cosmetic surgery gets you

Mother tries to sell baby on the internet for £150,000

A 20 year old woman with post natal depression decided to try to sell her newborn son on Gumtree for £150,000. A number of do gooders decided to direct the advert to the police but when they questioned the woman she simply told them it was a joke and had not intention of actually selling her son.

“I put on Gumtree that I was selling a baby for £150,000. I just plucked that number out of thin air and I claimed I was acting as an agent for a friend.

“It was very stupid and I shouldn’t have done it, but I didn’t think it would be taken seriously.”

“I love my boys and they make me so happy and I want them to be happy. It was just a silly, silly joke.”

She added: “I was crying and begging at this one social worker’s feet but she just took my son away.

“I am so upset and just want my boys back. It is my mistake, my stupidity. It should be me who is locked up, not the boys having to live with strangers.

“I am so sorry. I have not even been allowed to speak to them on the phone and I don’t know when I’ll see them again. I hope it is soon and they can come back to me.”

Detective Inspector Vanessa Smith, from West Yorkshire Police, said: “The child concerned, who is both fit and well, is being looked after in conjunction with relatives and social services. The mother is receiving appropriate care.”