Break ups are extremely difficult for various reasons and most of the time they are not straight forward. How many couples do you know that are ‘on and off’? How many people do you know that hooked up after a break up? Even when you cut someone out of your life to avoid having to deal with confusing feelings, you might find yourself wondering. ‘what if we just gave it one more try?’. It’s very commom for people to go back to an ex, here’s why;
1. They know you
At some point in your relationship you probably knew each other inside out. You shared a part of your lives together. Once your ex is out of your life you can feel very lonely because no one knows you like they do. Everything you do and see reminds you of them, you’ve been in a habit of sharing everything with them and that habit is hard to break.
2. You don’t want to date
The thought of having to get out there can be very daunting especially if you’ve been in a relationship for a long time. It can be difficult to find someone and even when you think you have, they can turn out to be exactly what you didn’t want. The worst part of dating though, is when you’re sitting across the table from one and all you can think about is your ex. You will naturally compare any potential partners to your ex and when they just don’t live up to your ex it can be extremely sad and disappointing.
3. They Still Care About You
Unless you had a horrendous break up, you will probably know that even though your relationship didn’t work out, your ex still cares about you. This can be difficult because when you’re feeling low or not very self confident, it can be too easy to get back in touch for a little self esteem boost. This is the trickiest situation as it can start with wanting a few compliments and turn into full on flirting.
4. Comfort
You’re not going to go on a first date with someone without trying to look your best, behave your best and try to impress, but this is HARD WORK. With your ex you can chill out, wear what you like, fart if you need too and you know they wouldn’t care. There is something very comforting about being about to fully be yourself with someone and this can’t happen with someone you’ve just met.
5. It’s Lonely
You can’t text photos of the dog on the bus to your friends or family, that’s weird. You’re used to texting about anything and phoning them as soon as something new or exciting happens as well as whenever you’re bored. After a break up you seem to never get a text or a call. No one is wishing you good night and no one is there when you wake up in the morning. You can feel totally alone.
6. You Still Like Him Or Her
Maybe it was your choice to break up, maybe it was your fault that you got dumped, maybe you don’t understand what happened. No matter why you broke up there may still be part of you that just can’t help it… you still like or even love your ex. Some times a break up can help you see with a different perspective, what is really important. A lot of people conclude that what’s important is you’re with the person you love. Some people cannot simply give up. If you can’t help how you feel, and you can’t ignore how you feel, then you need to do something about it.
